Get It Straight People

Nov 12, 2008 at 6:22 PM
If You're my Kids, Stop Reading, Now. I mean it.

Recently gay marriage was banned in the state of California. I was immediately disgusted.

I started life believing gay was wrong. But as an adult, I've become strongly Libertarian. Thanks to my father, (who I am not saying has a stand on this issue, I don't represent anyone but me with this post) and I believe in change, in equality, and in libertarian freedom.

I took a good look at sexual orientation after I had already reached adulthood - at well past 20, I'm ashamed to say - and I decided for myself that a person is a person, and love is never objectionable.

And looking to my religious beliefs, I find only a strong statement about not being promiscuous. And when I thought it through, I realized that the only thing objectionable to me is promiscuity.

And equating a sexual preference with promiscuous is idiocy. gay does not = promiscuous. Get it, straight people.

That's my belief now. If you're promiscuous, you're spreading disease. Or breaking hearts. Or contributing to the fall of humanity. You're not being true to your heart.

But being gay is NOT being promiscuous. How on earth did any religion ever get the idea that they were necessarily one and the same?

Why is it a crime to openly love and to want to marry the person you love?

And I would like to point out that our moral code does not say anything about the gender of your partner.

And most of the most ancient religious texts don't care what you do with your life, as long as you aren't breaking the golden rule, in whatever variation you find it in that religion.

So quit bugging good people who want to be married, California. I was born in that state, but I am not sure I ever want to go back there now. Disgusting.

And now the only reason I didn't want my kids to read this post. (Mommies don't flip the bird in view of their kids.) More about why I'm posting this picture, here.

BTW, I still don't have a camera, but my new friend Brian helped me take this picture because I'm effing PISSED and wanted to take part in this organized protest and emailed it to me with his camera.


  1. Kat Says:


    This is so well said that I wish I wrote it myself. Love the title, too. I had gay friends when I was younger, and none of them were promiscuous. Sometime after that, I got an earful of prejudice and didn't know what to think. I had to take a good look at it for myself and came to the same conclusion that you did.

    Hearing that people I respect voted YES on 8 has just been bewildering, and all I can fathom is that they just have some vague notion that being gay is wrong and that it does = promiscuous. I wish they would take another look at the matter. I've known too many gay people and couples to pile them all into a general category of any kind - that's just not the case.

  2. Kat Says:

    By the way, your tan is awesome and I'm jealous!

  3. desi Says:

    I know! Seriously a deep tan at this point. Every day I swim at least one hour. Plus I've dropped at least 25 pounds in the last month from yoga, bo staff katas, swimming, no dairy, no bread.

  4. Cat Says:

    LOVE IT! Going to get right on that tonight myself. I can't imagine what those couples who were married the last few years must be feeling. It's an outrage.

    Also, am jealous of wherever it is that you live that you can wear that little thing in November. Lucky!

  5. I agree 100%. Love is love; that's all there is to it.

  6. AndreAnna Says:

    Thank you for doing this! I hope you come back and check out all the other fingers out there!


  7. desi Says:

    @Cat - I wish I lived here. No, I'm on the Gold Coast of Costa Rica right now. Visiting. Oooh fun.

    @AndreAnna - Yes, hope the fingers list grows. But it does take schutzpah to flip the bird online. I felt like a WILD NAUGHTY CHICA. (I don't even flip the bird in TRAFFIC.)

  8. Kat Says:

    I felt that way too, lol. I flip the bird in traffic only very occasionally and when I'm pretty sure the recipient can't see it without x-ray vision.