relationship manifesto of the day

Sep 22, 2008 at 9:13 PM
Some things I've learned about relationships:

1. There are no such things as second chances. Life doesn't work that way. Do it right or don't play. Period.

2. Let the people I love know it every day. Otherwise rule 1 applies.

3. Stop looking for another me, and just find people who interest me on their own merits. I will never find myself in another person. I am unusual. Very.

4. My concept of honor is continuing to be trustworthy, reliable and kind even when it is uncomfortable to do so. Don't assume everyone else thinks that way, too. It bites me in the ass when I do. Again, 3 applies here.

5. Choose men slowly and well. Self explanatory.

6. If I get hurt, it is my failing only. I need to choose better.

7. Love is a shame to waste and foolhardy to withhold entirely.

8. Very few people know what "alone" really means. I do. No dwelling on it. It's self-defeating. Go out and get things done anyway. I've got goals I can't wait for someone else to help me get done. But since it's hard to play all of my games alone, I plan to avoid it in the future if I get a chance.

9. Life echoes itself, and no one leaves nothing behind them. If I find reminders hanging around years, months, days after events, I need to be ready for them.

10. Hold onto the children that love me no matter what. It is not their fault that the adults in their lives don't love one another any more. I cannot unmiss a childhood, no matter how hard I cry about it. So stay in communication for as long as I can, no matter what.

11. Never cry over old photos of people who've forgotten I was ever in a photo with them. It would be more productive to smack myself in the head with a mallet, and result in a smaller headache.

12. Never write self-defeating blog posts where I whine. No one cares. They never get comments or link love. Shut up and find HOPE instead of griping.

13. Try to live a life where someone is close enough to hug when I need one. It might sound like a hallmark card, but hugs really matter.

1 Responses to relationship manifesto of the day

  1. Kat Says:

    I love this so much. And you.